Saturday, January 15, 2011

A Little Eye Candy, Anyone?

     "You don't love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear."  But how do you know it's love?  What sets them apart from any other male or female?  What did they do to you to make the others become invisible?  Could it be... attraction?

     This topic comes from my sister, who is, it must be said, the flirtiest girl I know. And I love that! She is most often cheerful, but at times can really display the, "I've told you once, I am not going to tell you again" attitude, which, as any mom knows, can really mean the difference between lunacy and sanity.  So it is in her honor that this blog post is what it is. A look at the aspects of attraction and the ways in which "eye candy" gets better tasting as the years go by!

     So what is attraction? Is it the clothes the guy is wearing... or for the girl, the lack thereof? To answer this question, you have to realize that men and women are on two separate planes. Women notice the breadth of a mans shoulders. His swagger when he walks. How he overall carries himself.  A guy looks at a woman and sees, well, tits and ass. It isn't, in my opinion, until 6 months after the relationship that he acknowledges the color of her eyes, her power as a woman, or the fact that she has thick eyelashes. No, it's not easy being a man I suppose, with the stereotypes just mentioned, and I'm sure I'll get blasted by several followers, but, I call it like I see it.
  
     Women on the other hand, are secretive. They do not blatantly eyeball a guy to see his appearance.  We are covert when getting a little eye candy. Now, I'm not saying all women are that good. I've seen some women rubber-neckin at men more than a driver will at a traffic accident, BUT, many women, myself included, appreciate a tall, clean cut man who dresses with a little sophistication and maintains a confident attitude. (Authors note: Confident means you are pretty sure you can, cocky means you say you can, and can't)!

     So where does the actual attraction come from? Is it the woman's libido saying, "Dear God, take me now?" Or is the man's libido saying, "Gimme 3 minutes, maybe even 4?"  I believe it is a mutual relationship between the sexes.  A person is a physical being, full of electrical currents, interwoven with hormones and the NEED to be physical.  The ability to salivate over one good looking being is just a plus to the entire spectrum.

     And, lastly, we have ears... And those ears love to be tickled with flirty words and nuances of sexual desire and lust.  When a female hears a cat call, it's blasphemy to every fiber of her being! But when subtle remarks are made that hinge on flattery and desire, with a dash of embarrassment, the tables turn to worship! A woman can be anything she wants to be... Being flirted with, raising her blood pressure a little and truly enjoying the idea of "What if", because that is what it boils down to.  She knows she shouldn't, but "what if" she could...

     I've said for several years now that flirting is done on a sliding scale. If the woman is single, men are hardly interested -- low end of the scale.  If she is in a relationship but not married, it's about 50/50 on the flirt level. But if a woman is married, that is when it gets really interesting. It's not a matter of merely saying hi and winking... It's a matter of making her crave you. Making her beg for you.  Breaking her down, a piece at a time, until she gives in. Attraction is like a drug. And once a guy begins flirting with you, you become addicted, always wanting more. Another text, another call, another chance meeting...

     So, what have we learned today?
1.) Men oogle women on an obvious level -- women are ninjas in the eye candy department.
2.) Men are the players -- women are the professionals.
3.) Men will relish in the fact they are not committed -- women are committed, and while they are not easy, they can be had if they choose.
4.) A Man will respect a woman -- if a woman respects herself.
5.) Attraction is one of the inner mysteries of life -- a drug that has consumed both males and females alike, and will continue to do so...  until chocolate wins! :)

In conclusion, Attraction is like drinking salt-water: You drink, and thirst for more!
Until tomorrow,
LaVonda
 

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